In our lifetime, we fail and we fail many times. Ironically, failure has been seen as a dead end instead of a step towards success. The more you fail, the more you learn; the more you learn, the more successful you will be. It’s not that we should fail then; it’s about we should never give up. Failure makes us tough, patient and to do the best we can with what we have. As Mary Pickford said,”There is always another chance…. This thing that we call ‘Failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down”.
To produce a masterpiece, to create what will be acclaimed as greatest, to succeed; you have to fail, many times, to be original. That’s how Edison filed 1093 patents notwithstanding, the numbers of truly superlative achievements can be counted on fingers of one hand. 248 papers of Einstein have no or minimal importance before he wrote E = mc2
Timon Of Athens and All’s Well That Ends Well are known as worst plays ever produced; guess what, William Shakespeare produced them. The Chronicles of Narina, The Diary of Anne Frank, Gone with the Wind, Harry Potter, Lord of The Flies; were many times rejected before they get published.
Michael Jordan missed 9000 shots in his career, 24 game decisive shots, more than 300 games. “I failed over and over and over again, in my life, that’s why I succeed” he said.
This is how Abraham Lincoln in his life before he became the greatest president in the history of United States of America:
- 1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
- 1818 His mother died.
- 1831 Failed in business.
- 1832 Ran for state legislature – lost.
- l832 Also lost his job – wanted to go to law school but couldn’t get in.
- 1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this debt.
- 1834 Ran for state legislature again – won.
- 1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
- 1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
- 1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature – defeated.
- 1840 Sought to become elector – defeated.
- 1843 Ran for Congress – lost.
- 1846 Ran for Congress again – this time he won – went to Washington and did a good job.
- 1848 Ran for re-election to Congress – lost.
- 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state – rejected.
- 1854 Ran for Senate of the United States – lost.
- 1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party’s national convention – get less than 100 votes.
- 1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again – again he lost.
- 1860 Elected president of the United States.
“Failure is an event, not a person. Yesterday ended last night.”
Life is a strange journey; sometimes lead us nowhere & sometimes we have it all in a moment. Think often of how swiftly all the things pass away and are no more- all those creations of nature, those pains and laughters, affable conversions & warmth. The whole universe a flowing river and never it stops, changing constantly and infinitely. No moment is skipped unchanged, and that river ends nowhere but becomes steeper and narrowed to those who do not accept the change.
Nothing awaits to grieve our sadness, dawn will not veil its splendour, nor the stars refused to shine. We have to flow along, to make every sorrow a forgotten yesterday. flowing along, we’ll find what we have lost, into the form of new, on a new day.
We shall sit on the shore of that river, to chatter all those days we spent without each other, all the new things we saw and learnt about, about others whom we met on the way. Chuckling grins will echo in the air to flick the warmth of sunlight. Birds shall sing for us the song of happiness. We’ll smile till our tears come out in affinity.
….and this way the cycle of eternity completes.
Life is nothing a big deal to be hedged in useless traps of complexities. I find an ant happiest among us, just because it has an ability to keep things simple. No matter how hard we blow it away, it toils hard to overcome every obstruction. Amidst the glittering world, we often find ourselves dark inside. This darkness becomes eternal in our personalities and we lose faith, hope & courage in life. There is no particular way, though, to head for a better life. Yet it’s on us, how far we can see out of nothing. Here are a few things that I feel about:
- Acceptance: I had horrible dream last night, my dentist mistakenly plucked out a wrong teeth out of my jaws. Traumatised of pain and anger, I yelled on him furiously. Finally he decided to glue it back on my jaw, and off-course he couldn’t able to. It filled me up with utter disturbance and consternation. At last, I decided to consult another doctor and he was able to convince me that no one can put the teeth back. As soon as I have accepted the verdict, I got a new horizon to think how to deal better with it. Whether I should go for a implant and I should stop chewing from that side. Accept what life has to offer, overcome every fear, be courageous to deal with worst of life.
Never get down on knees, held your head high.
Shoot down the difficult, straight in the eye.
- Befriend Your Body: The function of our body is not just to carry our brain around but to keep it healthy and wise. Our body is only the physical existence of ours, it also can project confidence or timidity, power or weakness. Research shows that up to 93 percent of communication is non-verbal. Be good with your body, and learn how to best project it to outer world. Exercise and meditate everyday to keep your body and mind healthy. A weak body and thoughtless mind is evil.
- You’re Already Naked: External expectations, pride, and fear of embarrassment or failure all drop away in the face of death. Be spiritually enlighten and dwell with the foremost truth of life i.e. death. There is no moment next and may be there is no next life too. “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.” Steve Jobs quoted. Do whatever you want to do, live as if it is the last day of your life. Because….
I saw death knocking at my door-step
Asking me to get up & live the fullest
- Let It Go: To discover your true self, let go of who you think you are. Let go of labels, the limiting beliefs, the ego & resistance, and the things you can’t control. Just let go. Let go everything that makes you worry and discourage you to grow in life. Be like a beggar in abundance and a king in destitution.
- Be Kind: An act of kindness never goes wasted. Every single good-deed heals our broken side. Kindness is a food of soul, it is our subconscious purpose of existence, on earth, as a human-being. That’s how Emily Dickinson describe it:
“If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain”
- Be Truthful, Loyal & Gentle: Character of a man is best adjudged when no one is actually looking at him, except his own consciousness. Staying loyal towards others is the true strength of character, and a weak character is death of a worthy existence. Be gentle to others, love them, have no grudges, overlook small things, stay warm & share big smiles.
- Dream, Dream & Dream: Dream your best dreams and then dedicate yourself to making them real. Give your heart and life to your dreams. Build them for greater good, more than your own sake. Never let time to slip out of your vicinity. As Steve Jobs once said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” When we pursue our dreams, we can see and express who we really are.
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We men and women are filled of profuse love and competent of give-away tons of love to each & every creation of Mother Nature. Even our birth is the result of the most intimated and sacred form of love. Why violence?
World has witnessed the greatest of the greatest leaders who have embraced the path of non-violence and made the significant contribution to make the world a better place. Why do we forget about it, and we always forget about it. The blood-drenched sword is double edged and it justifies Newton’s third law of motion. Violence serves no one; even the aftermath of the great battle of Kurushetra was grief-stricken to thePandvas. Though the violent battles fought in ancient times were mostly, good versus evil, and the purpose always remained unique i.e. to prevail peace. But in today’s era, things are worst; we fight for baseless things, which have no relation to the accomplishment of peace.
Let me share my own story with you, I had a very tragic road-accident in the year 2014 and the credit of my survival goes to the generous humans who overlooked the conundrum of religion, caste, creed etc and made every possible effort to keep me alive. My Boss, who is a believer of Sikh faith, was among those angelic humans who donated me the blood. My fracture leg was precisely treated by a Muslim doctor, I was mentally supported by my friends across the globe and all of them are Christians. Do I need to say that how much I owe to them?
There are so things in this world like poverty, education, hunger to care about except the fanaticism of violence and inhumanity. Religions were made to serve humanity, not to lynch it. In his book Ignited Minds: Unleashing the Power Within India, Dr Kalam wrote, ““For great men, religion is a way of making friends; small people make religion a fighting tool.” To a thirsty, the religion is water, to a hungry, the religion is food; above all is humanity that serves the needy.
In her letter to me, Irom Sharmila writes, “What we really need to do now is to inculcate the art of love and kindness for others around the world, so that the world be the real sole-abode of a civilised generation of ours, without madness of killings and supremacy in dealing with other fellow beings. Why not it is possible?”
We, the citizen of this planet, are desperately in need to salvage the pearl of tolerance. Our minds should be broad enough and our hearts must be warm enough; to act or react without harming others, to analyse precisely before making pre-emptive notions, to help the feeble with all our strength, to think positive and TO make a constructive change.
After all, life is too short to be lived with hatred.